They say Sexual fetishes comes in all shape and sizes. One of the taboo fetishes which was brought up often by this blog's visitor's is one regarding wife fantasies.
Someone once asked me via a private mail if i have a fetish like this, if yes, how did it develop ?
There are many scenarios that was brought up by readers and seeing their wives being violated and exploited unwillingly yet enjoying the ordeal was one that stood out the most. I've corresponded extensively with the senders, asking them countless questions including to what extent would they be comfortable with if something like this were to happen.
I also did my own tabulation and analysis of the replies and i found one thing in common.
This includes my own personal inputs as well.
Such fantasies and fetishes don't develop overnight, it slowly happened over time. The stronger the bond of the couple, the stronger the fetish hits. It's not about infidelity or swinging, that is another topic for another time.
This is just simply being turned on and aroused by the scenario of seeing your loving wife with another man. By being with another man, i don't mean just beside him or talking to him, i meant sleeping, having sex.
Above all else, she has to enjoy herself, she has to enjoy the physical act, if not, it defeats the purpose.
It can be as simple as talking to her about her past relationships and sexual acts. The thought and scenario of her having sex with her ex-bf gives you this unexplained arousal. Some would say you have thoughts like this because you don't love your partner, but in fact, you love her more than anyone else, and it makes you happy and aroused to see her being pleasured.
Since i cannot speak for all who emailed me regarding this topic, i shall use myself as an example.
There were no major ups and downs in my relationship with my wife.
When we dated, i was the typical protective boyfriend. If someone looks at her for too long, i would stare at him. I would be the physical barrier between her and other fellow passengers on a crowded bus or train.
As we grew together as a couple, we explored different fantasies and fetishes together.
From extreme bondage, cosplay, roleplay, you name it. We're pretty adventurous as a couple, even now that we are happily married for many years, we still make it a point to play together whenever we can find time to.
Over the years, we slowly grew out of many of our plays, up to the point it simply does not arouse either of us anymore. We started role playing and experimenting with the idea of having another partner a few years ago. Not that we've done it for real, but it's just a scenario we've cooked up to spice up the bedroom activities.
It started with me in a scenario with 2 ladies, one of them being my wife, but strangely though, i got tired of it within a couple of sessions. Then i suggested why not we try it the other way around, which is my wife with me and another stranger. Someone she's never met.
Someone we don't know.
Perhaps someone we met at a bar when we're travelling.
Someone we will never ever meet again.
It turned out so well that it made us feel young again. There's this spark of excitement when we place ourselves in that situation and it made my wife so horny that she would say and do things otherwise impossible in real life.
Coming from a prim and proper all girls school , she never cursed. I would say 'oh shit', or crap, if i needed to express my frustration in a more civilized manner, but for her it's a 'oh dear' or 'oh no' .
No such thing as fuck, damm, hokkien vulgarities, or curses in cantonese.
so you can imagine the surprise when in the comforts and safety of our bedroom, she totally transformed into another person when we role play such scenarios. We started with 1 dildo, then it became 2, then 3. I don't remember seeing her having such intense orgasm when we experimented with other plays.
This one really takes the cake.
On a particular staycation without the kids, I was drinking my wine as i watch my wife moan with a dildo in her private, one in her mouth and one which she pretended to masturbate as if she was in a gangbang scenario.
She came 4 times within the span of 1.5 hours and she needed help to go to the bathroom.
I know the next question you want to ask.
Yes, we've spoken about it before, if that was what she wanted. Since we were pretty opened with topics like this, we discussed this depth. I know how many ex she had and how many man she slept with before we got together, it has never bothered me before. She on the other hand knew i had slept with a few of her friends before i got together with her and she was fine with it.
So, with that, we talked about it in depth for close to a month before we came to a consensus that a gangbang was not for both of us. We love each other, still do very deeply, and we felt that it's would be weird if we went down that path.
It's a small country after all, you might end up bumping into someone you know.
In her mid 30s, she's considered pretty attractive for her age.
She even had her upskirt videos taken and uploaded onto forums a few years back much to her horror. Yeah, not just a vid under her skirt, it included a shot of her face as well. I thought it was pretty funny though.
Because of that, she was the subject of a joke among her colleagues for a while. Surprisingly most of the colleagues that teased her were female, the guys probably were satisfied knowing that their colleague / team leader had a penchant of wearing g-string.
Anyway, we were satisfied keeping the fantasy and roleplay in the bedroom. It's been a few years now since we started, and honestly, we're starting to get a bit tired of repeating the scenario so many times.
It's no longer as arousing as it used to be.
I guess no matter what fetish you have, eventually you will grow out of it over time.
So for those who cringe on such genre of fetish and fantasy, check out my other works on the blog.
This piece is not for you.
And for the rest who would like to explore this shadowy world of wife sharing in the safety of your own mind, join me as we delve deeper into this taboo subject.
This happened a few years ago and I really needed to get this off my chest.
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